How to Love Your Worship Songs (Even If You Hate Them)

Every few months, I hear this from a worship team member:

“Omigosh—we’re doing this song again!?” Yes. Yes, we are.

I have to regularly remind my team (and myself) of this truth: When we start getting sick of a song, that’s just about the time the congregation is catching on. Between personal practice, rehearsals, soundchecks, and multiple services, we sing and play these songs 10 – 20x more often than the average Joe or Jane in our congregations.

So that puts us in a predicament: We can continually introduce new songs to keep things fresh for us on the worship team, or, we can stick with the same rotation of songs week after week and month after month (year after year), so the congregation knows them well.

So I’m oversimplifying a little. But it’s a dilemma worth talking about: the longer we rotate a song, the more the average worshiper can sing it from the heart, and not just sing it from the screen. But in that same amount of time that it’s taken that song to start connecting with the congregation, it’s becoming passé on the platform.

So it’s a legitimate question: Can we genuinely worship with songs that we just don’t enjoy anymore?

So it’s a legitimate question: Can we genuinely worship with songs that we just don’t enjoy anymore?

The simple answer to that is yes. But we, as leaders and worship team members, can do a few things to keep from getting cynical about certain songs.

Remember: it’s not about personal fulfillment

If we view our songs as tools to serve the congregation and help us worship God, it can help us keep a healthy perspective. Think about the craftsman who swings the same hammer day after day. He knows it. He uses it for a desired purpose. He’s not enamored with the hammer, but by what he can create with it.

When we fall into the trap of having to be fulfilled or “moved” by every song we lead, we’re going to frustrate our congregation (not to mention create a boatload of new-song-learning for the team).

When the music fades…

Too often with our songs, familiarity breeds contempt, or at least apathy. After awhile, we can phone-in songs or just plow through them on autopilot. But what does that say about us as lead worshipers if we’re yawning our way through a song that extols the power of the Most High God?

Ditch the music and spend a little time with just the lyrics of a song that’s not “moving” you any longer. Pray them. Study the scriptures that inspired them. It could help you find that worshipful connection again that you’ve been missing.

Worship with the songs you wish you were singing
Our private worship time is more important than what we do on the platform. So use those newer songs that you love right now to fuel your personal worship moments. Those songs may never make it into the corporate worship rotation, and that’s OK.

Freshen It Up

Maybe an aging song needs a musical facelift. Consider rearranging or reimagining it musically to make it fresh for the team. Just don’t stray so far from the original that the congregation doesn’t connect to it.

Retire The Tired

There does come a point when a song runs its course. When disconnection with the congregation begins to occur, it’s time to give the tune a long break or retire it indefinitely.

And finally…

Just suck it up and sing it

It’s easy to worship with a 72 BPM modern worship anthem (guaranteed to get every hand in the air by the bridge). But what about a bouncy, early 20th-century hymn that sounds like it came from an amusement park carousel? Or a 90’s praise chorus that sings like laundry detergent jingle? Or that one particular tune your congregation just LOVES and your team just LOATHES? What do you do then?

You choose to worship.

It’s not about faking it. It’s about a conscious choice to die to self and enter into worship. We’re here to worship God and serve others by encouraging them to worship. It’s not about you or me.

One final word, lest you think I’m saying that the popular consensus of the congregation rules your song selection.

As a worship leader, you are the shepherd of your church’s songs. You are the one who determines which tunes come into the fold and which ones get “put out to pasture.” Your goal shouldn’t be to make your set lists as hip as possible. But it also shouldn’t be to keep the status quo. We’re called to sing new songs (Psalm 33:3), but we shouldn’t let go of the thread that connects us with our heritage.

If you want to dig more into the concept of song selection and rotation, check out my book, The SongCycle: How To Simplify Worship Planning and Re-Engage Your Church (available on Amazon) or download the free guide: 7 Checkpoints of a Healthy Master Song List. (

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Worship pastor and found of, a site dedicated to help worship leaders build exceptional worship teams. He's also the author of "The SongCycle: How to Simplify Worship Planning and Re-Engage Your Church"


  1. Thank you for your affirmation of what I have struggled with in leading our team. You have given me words to share with them to make sense of why we are not singing the most up to date songs every Sunday. I’m not just being a old fogey!!

    • Hello Joyce – glad that was a help – and thanks for your feedback – appreciated! In re-reading Jon’s article I am again struck with the disconnect we can have on the platform if we’re not careful. Between learning, practicing, and playing these songs we do hear them way more than the congregation and in our flesh we can get tired of them. Jon’s comment about ditching the music and zero-ing in on the lyrics is really insightful – especially for instrumentalists! Thanks again for your post! God Bless – [WM]

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